Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Sad Day

So it's official. My daughter has dyslexia. I should not have feared an ambiguous diagnosis. She is a classic case in every area in which she was tested. This includes a very high score on her overall intelligence level. Translation: She is extremely bright. She's eight years old. She can't read.

The irony that my daughter has a mother who passionately loves the subtle, rich texture of books, reading, and writing breaks my heart. The permanence of this diagnosis weighs on me. The words "Create a file with everything we are giving you. You will need this documentation for her in middle school, high school, college, and she may need it as an adult" echo in my mind.

Some of the saddest words I've ever heard I heard today when the diagnostician said "Your daughter does not and will probably not ever experience books like you do. Her brain is not wired in a way that will allow her to become lost in the written word. Reading will most likely always be an academic exercise." At this, I laid my head on the table and wept.

Tomorrow I will be busy developing an action plan for my daughter. Flash cards will be made. Books will be bought. A summer program will be chosen. Websites and research will be accessed.

Today. I grieve.


Tawnia said...

Do not be sad. I told you before she will be able to read and she will enjoy reading. All people learn differently. She just needs to be taught in a different way then the other kids. Her mind sees things differently, and that is really all it is. She will be reading like a pro by next fall, with a little effort. This is not a road block, just a speed bump. She is a smart girl and she will be fine! Do not let people fill your head with their ideas about it. Everyone is different, and everyone learns differently! I have Faith in her and you!
All My Love Tawnia

J.Me. said...

I agree. That diagnostician was very negative about it...But I don't think it's something to be so negative about. Of course it will be challenging, but she won't be defeated. =)

distractionscorridor said...

They're right. As someone who's worked extensively within healthcare, the diagnostician's negativity was unacceptable (and probably incorrect). Not everyone is passionate about things that come easily to them. Just because reading won't be her easiest task doesn't mean it can't be one of her favorites.

Prophit1970 said...

We are surrounded by electrosmog, which addles my nervous system because my baseline was damaged many years ago. I rock the NYT crossword everyday, but it's much easier when I'm shielded or far away from cell and radio towers, home appliances and etc.

I know it's not practical to sit down and read with your daughter, somewhere off in the distant woods. Neither is it inexpensive to erect a mosquito-netting-like "Faraday Cage" canopy over your bed to sit with her. But that is what I would do, because that canopy makes a real difference in my cognition.

Entraining the co-ordination of the senses and the brain in today's world is so very difficult. I wish you the best of luck as you try everything you can.

Kristi Stevens said...

Thank you everyone. She is an amazing child with an iron will and work ethic unlike anything I've ever seen in a child. She certainly does have more things working in her favor than against her. I appreciate everyone reminding me of this. Love, K

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